How to Talk to Women Online

Ever wondered how to get the words from your mouth to the screen? Read on for helpful hints on how to do so...

First, don’t play hard to get. Men and women both like someone who’s forthright and open with his/her feelings and intentions. That’s not permission to come on strong, overly suggestive or the like, but the point is to speak your mind in a respectful way while simultaneously heeding your intuition about what to say, how to say it and how often to say it.

Second, don’t hound someone online, because women usually put up with tons of emails, IMs and automated “winks” from men. I would write no more than two or three times a day. If your style is to write long messages, then send fewer emails. If your style is to write short, pithy messages, then you can send more of those. The key is to write in a way that saves your prospect time - because women have a huge demand on their time on online dating sites. As you get to know her better and you feel a genuine attachment is forming, then you can up the pace and content of the emails.

Recent research shows what topics women like to talk about online, as well as what issues are major turn-offs. Knowing this information might help to guide your messages so you come across as interesting and most importantly, safe.

Women’s Top Ten Favorite Conversation Topics

1. Hopes and aspirations
2. Hobbies/interests in general
3. Music
4. Dreams
5. Romance
6. Friends
7. Travel
8. Vacations
9. Movies
10. Entertainment

Women’s Top Ten Least Favorite Conversation Topics

1. Politics
2. Other dates
3. Past relationships
4. Science fiction
5. Religion
6. Celebrities
7. Science
8. Antiques
9. Money
10. History

When it comes to how you write messages, I also have some pointers. Certain behaviors turn women on or off, depending. Keep these six principles in mind…

•Show your romantic side. Too often men come on strong and steer the conversation to sexual issues.

•Be polite. Too often men show poor boundaries online.

•Be comfortable. Too often men try to play a character online, rather than reveal their true selves.

•Have fun. Too often men work an agenda as opposed to being natural and enjoying the process of actually getting to know someone.

•Be intelligent. Too often men show poor spelling and grammar, which shows poor education or poor attention to detail.

•Be optimistic. Too often men come across as gamey, dominating or ultra-mysterious. Motivating and upbeat people are almost always more attractive and interesting to most women.

GOOD LUCK!